When it's time to start saying, "No."


The man who views the world at fifty the same as he did at twenty has wasted thirty years of his life.
— Muhammad Ali

For majority of us, we have followed a particular system of living all of our lives. This is how you do this, and that is how you go about doing that. We've followed that system to the point where it's second nature, it's embedded within our hearts and minds to think and respond according to that system. If you're like me, you came to a point in your life where you were miserable and tired of following the same cycle. Then you were confronted with continuing the cycle or just saying, "No." I decided to say No and live the life God created me to live. Here are 5 signs that shows it's time for you to start saying "No":

1) You're unhappy.

Many people don't understand what true happiness is. Now I'm no expert and surely am not the Omniscient God, but I can bet that at least 75% of people in this country is living an unhappy life. They have a mundane life and it's consumed with putting on a smile that's used to hide the sadness and depression that's deeply hidden within their hearts. Weekends are used for over indulgence of cranberry and vodka to drown away the inner problems we all face; to wake up Monday morning to the same issues. In addition, happiness can't be found in the material things of this world. Nine times out of ten, you have a shopping problem because you're trying to fill or cover any emptiness you're feeling in your heart. Say "No" to counterfeit happiness and the system that perpetuates living an unhappy life is okay as long as you have temporary pleasures.

2) You believe you don't have a purpose in this world.

You may or may not believe in God, but He says He has a plan for you and that He's had a plan for you since before you were in the womb! Isn't that amazing?! Every single thing and person in this world has a purpose, you just have to identify it. Your purpose may not be to impact millions, but it doesn't make your purpose any smaller. Think of it this way, there is at least one person in this world that needs YOU. That may seem like a foreign concept, but don't neglect finding your purpose because the world said to follow one system of living. Your purpose is much bigger than you.

3) You feel that life is passing you by and everyone is doing better than you.

Comparison is a buzz kill. For majority of our lives we've been taught to follow a particular system so a natural response to people moving faster and further than you living by the same system would be to think that people are doing better. That's not the case at all! We all have a journey that's specifically carved out for ourselves; my journey is not the same as yours. Say "No" to comparison and stop watching others. Stay in your lane and find out what you need to do to get to where you're destined to end up. Live your life!

4) You think about your failures and you start to believe that you can't do any better.

Failures can be a buzz kill too, but we don't have to allow failures to dictate how we live our lives. Constant failures can also lead to fear. When you try something and fail, a natural response would be to give up and never try again. Or another response would be to quit trying new things all together and remain complacent. Look at those failures as tools to make you better instead of tools to bring you down. A failure doesn't necessarily mean you weren't meant to achieve that thing.

5) You're listening to the wrong people.

For the most part, people really do have good intentions. But sometimes those intentions aren't the right intentions for you. When they give you advice or "words of wisdom", it sounds good until you realize that much of the advice is coming from personal experiences that don't have anything to do with you. They subconsciously lead you back to the path they've walked or the journey they've lived which is most likely the world's view of how life should be lived. And it isn't their fault; they just haven't become aware of the impact of how one system passed down for generations is actually a curse and is haunting them too. Say "No" to worldly wisdom and discern for yourself what's best for you.

It's never too late to reverse the curse and move forward in the direction you were destined to go. All it takes is for you to say, "No" to the mundane complacent way of living and start saying, "Yes" to finding true joy and happiness in the fruits of your God-given destiny.